INGRATE

My life has been always happy and blissful, more than 3 years ago, we decided to share the blessings that God is giving us. We reach to the point that are financial status are well manage.

We choose to share our blessings by sending two (2) students in University. We got one from a far relative of my husband which we still did not meet until today and one who is a close relative. A relative of my father in Manila and a grand daughter of my Auntie Mommy Mareng, was one of the scholarship recipients. (sister of my father).

We regularly send money to Philippines for their school fee and daily school allowances.


After a year of schooling, I need to find out a new baby sitter as I got pregnant for the 2nd time. My parents selected the best lady they have known and it was the mother of my scholarship recipient from my town. We happily took her and trust that she will become happy staying with us. We also taught that it will be going to be of big help to their financial status, she will be able to save money from the salary which she will receive from us and at the same time, enjoying life here with us.

Everything was ok in the beginning, after a year, when my parents visited us here for a long vacation, I heard bad thoughts that she was telling my mom. She was telling that we were not treating her as a relative, that hurts me a lot. It is not about the bad thoughts, it is about to whom she’s telling. She was telling this to the very close person to me, to my mom and to my sister? Something might be wrong, if she could tell all of these to them, what more to other people?

I did not confronted her, thinking that it would make the things worst and added to it, we just renewed her visa and paid a big amount for it. I kept mum about it. But I never been happy since then knowing that someone inside my house has an ill feelings towards us. We decided to find another housemaid, and made ourselves ready to tell her that we will be sending her home after the contract and we did.

We send her home in good faith, giving the last month salary in full although she served us for only 13 days, and bought her some stuffs which we know she’ll be happy.

Last week an incident happened, My father and my ex-baby sitter had a misunderstanding about a small thing and it ended up to confrontation. The argument did not stop there, my ex-maid uttered some bad thoughts about me and my family here, she even spreading the news that we were maltreating her and we always threw bad words to her and even us (me and my husband) is always saying bad words to each other.

I couldn’t believe that someone that we helped, eat, sleep in my own house would do this to us. I felt sad, but my husband said, she is not worthy for you to think. Let us wish her good luck and may she receive the same or even more blessings than what we are having right now.

You can’t please everybody and never expect anything in return.

What I learned from this is, never be tired of reaching out or helping the other people in need but do not give your full trust so you will not be abused.

God bless to all!